In this Lesson we are able to define, know the symptoms, cause and effects, and the steps how to control Anger. (ready??? grrrrr...)
Anger - displeasure: a strong feeling of grievance and displeasure
Causes:
1. Biological and Psychological Factors
2. Frustrations in life
3. Family Background
4. Victim of abuse
5. Demonic Influence
6. Depression
7. Pressure in life.
How to Control Anger
1. Redirect the Anger.
Do something physical like exercising or cleaning. Sometimes physical work will release the tension. (Ex. Walking)
2. Give yourself a break.
Sometimes we just need time alone to work things out.
3. Express your anger, then go away.
If channeling your anger in non-abusive ways becomes too difficult, you still have the option to briefly express it in an acceptable way and then leave immediately.
* If possible, remove yourself from the situation. It's amazing the difference 8-hours of sleep or a 5-minute walk can make. Time gives you distance from the issue, allowing you to put things into perspective.
4. Try thinking of stuff that you are thankful for.
The more specific, the better. You can't be truly angry and thankful at the same time.
* Meditation is a useful way to release stress and/or anxiety, which are often prerequisites to anger. Do not meditate when you are angry, as this could have a negative effect on your anger. Instead, meditate when you have calmed down and are in complete control of your life. If you feel like you lose control when you're angry, seek psychological help.
5. Anger is never, ever an excuse to strike out at or abuse
(physically or verbally) the people around you.
* Do not hurt a person or animal. In fact, stay away from them when you are angry.
6. Remember, anger leads to hate, and hate leads to the dark side.
7. Do not hurt a person or animal.
In fact, stay away from them when you are angry.
8. Don't abuse yourself (e.g. cutting)
This won't make you feel better and will only hurt you more.
9. Forgive others as well as yourself.
10. Use logic. Be reasonable and stop demanding.
* Resolve your personal issues. Commune with God. Communicate with God. Cry to God.
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This is Anger Self Test.
Answer the questions can be given in Yes or No.
1. __________ Many times you feel tense
2. __________ You could not say what is on your mind
3. __________ When you are upset you try to forget it by watching TV, reading a book or magazine.
4. __________ You are addicted to smoking to help you calm down.
5. __________ You have trouble with sleep.
6. __________ Many times you feel misunderstood or not listened to.
7. __________ People say you curse so much.
8. __________ You hurt your loved ones when you are angry.
If there are positive answers to 0-3 questions you could benefit from relaxation. If there are 3 to 5 years then you are moderate and need to learn more about your stress management.
If there are more yes answers then you have an anger problem and you need to take help of counselor.
